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Your Kids Quarrel Is Not The Moments To Survive, But Opportunities For Deep Learning
The time when you see your children start fighting with each other for little things, you will have two options: either stop them abruptly and ask them to be silent or make time to let them express their emotions and let them make sense of it.
With marriages within the family, I see children often, especially of my elder siblings. When I see them, they are playing around often testing the nerves of their parents and all of us. However, parents often control them unnecessarily with their instructions and interference.
I believe all healthy parents want their children to thrive. You don’t only want to survive your parenthood but also raise your children well. Your intentions are good, and your actions are based well-meaning. You do want them to enjoy meaningful relationships, be compassionate, do well in school, and thrive in their life.
If your child doesn’t understand his emotions, how will he regulate his anger? How will he understand how to show kindness to others? If he hasn’t fallen, he won’t know how to get up. This is why if you have the most difficult parenting moments, it is also the time of deep learning.
Your children will be soft and meek until they are not. When they are born they cry out for necessities, but when they become toddlers, they will shout to take your attention. Out of nowhere, suddenly your children will mess with your makeup, your clothes, and everything in your home. With other children, they will want to own all toys in the home and may race with each other for its acquisition.
It’s these complex moments of parenting that your child needs you most. If you want your child to develop healthy qualities, and be happy, independent, and successful, you have to give these seeds in childhood to give your children a beautiful future.
Ask yourself this: are you intentionally developing these qualities in your children? I understand that parenting is not an easy job, but have you dismissed hard moments with silence? Or asked the quarreling children to go to their rooms without resolving their issues?
These hard parenting are indeed survival moments but also teaching opportunities. When you see your kids fighting for a toy or something, utilize the moment to instill the core values; of reflective listening, polite and respectful conversation, and skills of conflict resolution.
Children are naive and innocent. If we want them to maneuver this life well, then we have to instill life skills into them from early upbringing.
Thank you for reading. The blog was written after research and fact-checking, however, it is not professional advice and can be flawed.
